What do Transsexual Women Want?

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, for one thing, to be treated as people and as women, not as perverted oddities or sex toys. Comparing a transsexual to someone born male or female is insulting, whether you do it to her face, or behind her back in conversation with your barroom buddies. So is public speculation about "What they're like," especially if you've never even met one and all you know came from watching pornography. You wouldn't treat your boss or your mother like something to be conquered, used up and thrown away, would you?

Discretion is not just the better part of valor, it's common courtesy. If you've ever been publicly outed for being a gay man or bisexual guy, then you know how humiliating -- even dangerous -- it can be. For a transsexual female, it's worse. In transition, she has to build a whole new life, from her socks to her sex, including how she presents herself. It's hard to blend in without being spotted, And, especially in the early stages, the whole thing can be blown apart like a house of cards with one wrong word. So do unto others what you'd have done unto you.

Now we come to "commitment," the infamous "C-Word." This is another difference between men and women. Men tend to play the field, and many will sleep with whomever and whatever they can, whenever they can. The aim is to prove one's manhood by scoring as often as possible without getting caught.

Being the nurturing souls they are, women want something different. They want the emotional security of a stable, monogamous relationship with a man who will stick around for while; not one who vanishes away, sometime between when she falls asleep and wakes up alone, the next morning.